Depression and the Holidays

Seniors can have an especially hard time with the holidays. Lots of reasons can contribute to this. The loss of an important person in the last year, or the anniversary of a loss or traumatic event can make memories come back that can dampen spirits.

Not being able to do what they used to do in years past can be difficult to handle as an elder may be "stuck" on looking at what they used to do during the holiday season. It can be hard to cope with the reality that a six course dinner for twelve isn't feasible anymore.

Falling into the trap of becoming isolated by limitations or leaning on fantasies of how holidays should be can lead to depression and can be avoided.

Develop a healthy sense of narcissism by not taking responsibility for others happiness. Break free from holiday chores that no longer bring fulfillment. This isn't being selfish and stingy, just taking care of oneself.

Elders can anticipate the stressful periods of the holiday by preparing ahead for the people and situations that create stress. Rehearsing responses ahead of time enables one to respond to situations appropriately.

Keep in mind that taking care of oneself is a gift to everyone else because everyone ends up having a happier and healthier holiday.

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